Happyness

“That maybe happiness is something that we can only pursue and maybe we can actually never have it. No matter what.”

-The Pursuit of Happyness (2006)

I am happy. Well, I did ask everyone if they’re in search of anything. So, this one is what I got in one of the answers. Yes, I too am in search of it. I’m happy, but… (read above quote)

The way we get happy is different. When I was little, for me, happiness was not going to KG school. When I started going to my primary school, I loved my routine. There were moments when I had got prizes, and was so happy that I almost cried living those moments. When I’m living my college life, I’m not so happy about it not even when I get prizes; but I’m when I’m with my friends passing comments in the ongoing lecture or when I’m with my whole family. For me, Happ’y’ness has always been “I loved your work/song/weirdness” (in detail, of course! That’s how I know that actually you have listened to me or read me) rather than “Hey, you look good!” (Urgh… I always look good!)

Happy moments are big. Really?

For me, not attending KG was big; getting gifts was big; and now it’s either very big as getting a job of a millionaire or a little happy moment of eating an ice-cream (big moment for a child, yeah!).

People often ask me, “you don’t like your college, right?”

And I have to say, every time, “it’s all about the situation.”

It is as simple as not liking my school as all of my batch mates won’t be there now; my favorite teachers are either there have forgotten me or got retired from the school (some will be there, still remembering me, but it’s not the same); and me being too old for schools (which I never thought of actually).

So, right now, I love my college. I want to live every moment of my college life and I’m living. How I study, what lectures I bunk, is all upon me and I love it. I know, because I’m firm with my decisions and I’m never gonna regret a thing. If you’re just going there, for nothing, then don’t push yourself. I’m not saying you should leave everything, what I’m saying is you must understand yourself and the way you’re gonna feel better than this. The way your life makes you happy and the way you make your life happy is up to you. When you laugh reading or listening to a joke, are you pushing yourself? No! Happyness comes when you accept who you are, what you do, and what affects you.

When you think your life is hurting you or God is punishing you, when you think “Why me?”, there you don’t hesitate for a moment making your happiness rely on other things. Why do that? When Jerry had this great operation where the doctors and nurses personally knew him, where they were shocked seeing him happy rather than being confused or sad for knowing that operation may or may not be successful, he only said: “Good luck team. I hope you make this successful. Either I’ll have a few minutes of happy life or I’ll have a long happy life. What I can choose is to live it happily or not. I chose one option. Now it’s your time, why are you sad?” and operation went successful. (School-time story)

I like travelling since I was a child. I liked roller coaster and all the rides, now I don’t. I feel like I’ve wasted my time and money. I like nature. My friend, opposite to me, likes rides fairly more than nature. She blames me. I blame her. At the end, we both are happy doing what we love. She sits in rides; I sit waiting for her outside that crowded place.

Yes, it’s perverse when you feel happy being one Raman Raghav (I’m talking about real, not the artistic movie with the same name); when you laugh at some Sridevi jokes; when you’re satisfied seeing someone’s fall in her/his career. Be happy when you’re promoted, what good will it be to you seeing someone falling?

Tips:

• Go somewhere/Be alone for a while.
• Have a get-together with friends (old/new): studies show friends make you happy more than anything else in the world (not even family) about 70%
• Cry for a while.
•  Look back to your past. Sweet memories will remind you of the happiness and you’ll be happy. Bad memories will strengthen you for future saying what you did was great. If this is reversed, remind yourself to be happy for everything. Why?! Because, “Happyness”.
• Remind yourself to be happy always. Your heart will be cheerful and mind will like that, so HE will accept it instantly and will follow the lead always.
• Think what makes you actually happy. Do that.
• Make your surrounding colorful.
• At the end,

ज़िंदगीभर जियो, हँसो, मुस्कुराओ,

क्या पता, कल दाँत हो ना हो...

PS. Answer to Avani

PSS. "Happyness" word has some "feels"... (In case, you're wondering)

Roots of Motivation

Exam is coming | sibling’s wedding is there | My mind is all messed up.

So what I need is motivation.

You don’t realize but motivation comes in odd kind of ways, and you’re motivated when you have least expected it.

So, here’s what I believe:

You’re a tree. The branches are all your work. But to grow yourself and to remain healthy and positive, you need water and nutrition, which is knowledge. Now, to gain it, you expect your limbs and brain to do some efforts and that’s how you’ll grow. To take the nutrition and water, you’ll definitely need the root. The chief root is motivation.

From a cartoonist to a writer, from an actor to a politician, from a family member or a friend to an unknown social media follower, I take inspiration. My idols are too many. It’s not that they all have to be creative or some great people! Everyone is unique. If you’re following one as a role model, aren’t you doing injustice to yourself? You’re a whole different person; just think that you and your idol are from different families, schools, at least, you’ve faced different situations in life; if you’ll follow her/him alone, doesn’t mean that you will be able to become that person; you won’t even be yourself. Some live their life to the fullest and some do not; some people like to be at work and some like to do art and travelling; some people are happy alone and some like to spend their time with friends and family; some people want to change the world and some people want to change their surroundings only: what you do and from what you get inspired is total different and still can be the same. It doesn’t mean you must be at some place at some time with certain people; motivation is all about handling the uncertain places and situations with different kind of people. (Even if you want to be with a certain your-type-of person, how long does it take her/him to be changed? And well, at the end, situations are always different.)

I always thought that it was my weakness that I needed motivation after some time. To keep yourself motivated is not a weakness. You’re not a robot that always feels the same and is motivated in all the circumstances.

There are two kinds of people:

1. (This one includes me) Who work great under pressure

2. Who can’t work under pressure (You know, who get depressed)

Even I tell my friends to scold me in my reading vacation. It’s good for me that I know what pressure does to me instead of depressing me but still most of the time I’m relaxed. When they think it’s too less time left for exams, I don’t feel that.  (Yes, pressure comes when you’re concerned about that thing.) So, at exam times, 

• I prefer to read self-help motivational books and to watch YouTube videos. 

• I make a timetable. (Make one, so that you’ll have at least 3 things done out of 10 instead of doing nothing at all.) (‘Timetable’ chapter (Gujarati) from school time taught me this: make one even though you can’t follow it; at least you won’t regret not making one. Even our railways can’t follow timetable!)

• I eat, a lot, (side effects of studying), and drink water in study intervals.

• I like writing my diary. (Dear diary, it’s __ o’clock and I’ve read nothing due to__ but will complete at least __ chapters. Saw that video, and I’m gonna apply what the video taught me; let’s see if that works or not.)

There are situations when you want to keep going and for that you want to motivate yourself but get this creator’s block! You have no idea what to do! And sometimes, something (like this tree above) inspires you!

PS. I am writing this blog during my exam time. I know. But it’s because of a secret: I thought I will study more in my TY but I didn’t. Now, you know, exam time is here and you can’t do more than the whole year study (in the last month or week). I did a bit more, due to these motivations! I tried to remind myself how marks used to affect me in school days and my friends and I  used to be ‘rivals’! And a serial which motivated me on the third episode (and which I’m gonna continue watching after my exams because I can’t watch 45 minutes’ episodes); A Dr. about whom I know nothing motivated me (he is not a big surgeon or anything, not even from my family, still); and a random old Mahabharat episode did that too.

Movies Like Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham

Seriously, why can't this movie be remade!?

It's not that SRK is my fav actor and I love the pair and all, it's all about family. So, this one is all: __ reasons to watch K3G

1. Actors, obviously:

They are all good and young (except Kareena: over-acting; but well, it suits her). Bachchan is doing the great 'Paa' role who is so much into the culture thing - just like Mohabbatein movie. SRK is the adopted son and beloved to his mom (typical bollywood). Kido actors are all too good. Hrithik is okay, but his acting comes up with all music in the background and his oh-so-sad-face. (It's so much emotional to see 3 actors crying in bollywood: Amitabh, SRK, and Hrithik. And they are all in this movie, that's why it's damn-lady-you're-crying emotional movie!)(Whoa! Why Hollywood movies don't show the male actors crying? I mean, I can't even remember any scene! Well, Ryan Gosling makes me cry, so he can be in the list, MAYBE)
I don't like Jaya Bachchan, so can't comment on her. Kajol is the best in this movie. Even though it is all due to her Kuch Kuch Hota Hai - 'Anjali' role, it's different than that. In the previous movie, she's all grown up & mature (read, serious) instantly, and in K3G, even though she is shown as a mom, she's too cool keeping her character. There are emotions for her son, her husband, her nation, her 'Babuji', but there is still the old Anjali inside her. I know it's about the story, but that turn of liveliness in maturity is seen in K3G's Anjali and not KKHH's.

2. Story:

It's a family movie. It was known to be the modern family thing in old times. How the business is set from generation to generation, how they live, how the people see all those rich-respected families, and how everyone wants their family together but can't keep it. People say there is over exaggeration: I accept that, otherwise this movie would not be the same. (Mostly the London times, I agree) Still, how the story is set is perfect. Even though we want to be together, there are questions of the certainty that the other person will accept us. There is something in us that we can't say how much we love a person, we can't say how we can't live without them. There's ego that we can't share our problems with our inferiors. The story is all told in 2 scenes: 'Mr. Raichand stood up straight and his wife standing in front of him, on a chair, setting his tie on the suit' and after years, 'She is having a पूजा की थाली in her hands, stood straight in front of Mr. Raichand, without chair, and he is bending his head for tilak'; all about Mr. Raichand saying a dialogue: "कह दिया, बस कह दिया" showing his ego and position, to Mrs. Raichand saying the same in the climax.

3. Direction and Music:

I know, we all laughed when AIB roast had this 'aaaa' music fun from the Dharma Production which belongs to this movie, but actually, it is good. The Tabla and Sitar music in the background make this movie so much more Indian! The storytelling and the direction, so modern for those days, lead this movie to a level on which 'Hum Sath Sath Hai' or 'Hum Apke Hai Kaun' couldn't get to. We all think that the songs that our bollywood movies have are not worth our time. (How can you watch 3-4 hours of movie with total time pass songs in the middle!?) Well, on that point, I loved Priyanka Chopra, when she was asked about the 'La La Land' in the Jimmy Fallon show and she said, "That movie is really good. The actors did it well. But there's nothing new for us. Actors dancing on the songs in the romantic movies is common in our Bollywood."
*Me clapping: "Bravo... Bravo..." *

4. Dialogues:

A. The above mentioned one in point1.
B. अगर ज़िन्दगी में कुछ बनना हो, कुछ हाँसिल करना हो, जितना चाहते हो... (Watch the movie, seriously!)
C. Whole of the 'अशफ़ाक़ मियाँ' part
D. All the dialogues of Johnny Lever.
E. "Hallelujah" by Poo (અમદાવાદી ભાષામાં કઇએ તો- 'કલર')
F. Not the dialogue, but acting of both Jr and Sr Raichands on "बाबूजी जैसा बनना चाहता हूँ, जैसा वो चलते है...अभी खड़े है, वैसे..."
G. "Cookies... I love cookies... इससे अच्छे तो हम चांदनी चौक में ही थे" part

Etc. Etc.

Bookish Time: 
Even though K3G is KJo's the biggest hit (even though it broke the blockbuster records and earned a lot), he was depressed at the release time due to news on 'Lagaan' being nominated for Oscar. Yes, no one today remembers both movies were released in the same week. (Don't compare 'em, people!)

PS. I have my answers ready if you say anything bad about this movie. I know we have different perspectives, but still, try to watch it what it actually is.

PSS. I watched Bahubali because people forced me. I'm not doing that to you. But if you have even 1% of doubt that your views can change after this, please watch it. (It comes on television every week!)

Facts of bookish Time and pics from KJo's biography: An Unsuitable Boy

A Perfect Climax of 2017

Yes, in search of a perfect climax to 2017! You know, why should I put this title? Because I want to make sure that the next commitment that I’m gonna make to 2018 must be followed/completed unlike 2017. The new life does not come with the New Year!

And so, this time, I didn’t have to wait until the end of the year. On one usual December night, I got this thought. And what did I learn from 2017 is: To Accept.

It is too hard for people like me who have got anger and egoistic nature in their inheritance. It is too hard to accept people talking all the crap; hard to even listen to them! The marriage season is here nowadays and so everyone is on their highest stress level. We want everything perfect in future, and so we’re ruining our present. (I keep myself engaged and make sure that future will be all okay after my sista would leave her old home. She and my Mi are busy shopping. We all are missing our precious time, but that’s okay whenever we are all together😊)

Instead of stressing out, I must keep myself contained because I’m gonna enjoy the marriage season and my sista will be happy in future and that turn needs not to be straight. Many times I keep thinking that this life will come to an end, and so you have to accept it because it is not in your hand. So, you only have options: to accept them earlier with happiness or to accept those facts after getting high BP. At the end, YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT.

What to do if you love someone? You can’t change that. Forget all the crap of ‘एक तरफ़ा प्यारकी ताकत ही कुछ और होती है...’ and all that, but accept that you love her/him even if the decision of the person is not as same. Accept that your feelings will also change in future.

You can’t change your past. Accept what already did happen and think about the future. (Believe me, demonetization worked. Not the way you wanted it to, but it did. And yes, there was nothing stressful about it, for common people too, still they were disturbing themselves because they were all unaware of the facts and the news. So now, that you can’t change your rupees notes to the older ones; why should you consider demonetization as some de-motivation to your nation? PS. I’m not ‘Modi-Bhakta’)

Other things for politics from this year, is elections. Chanakya said that, “a leader of the nation must have a strong opponent to keep the work at its perfect pace and to the peak performance.” At the start of the year, we saw Akhilesh and Rahul Gandhi reunion for the UP elections. People mocked them because of the event that followed the election propaganda. BJP won the UP elections. After that Nitishkumar (Bihar) supported Modi which topped all the news channels for a while and too much things happened then. Rahul Gandhi worked on his image and personality, and the Gujarat elections showed the results – ‘they didn’t win but they also didn’t lose.’ (Tharoor said.) BJP works smartly, as they know how to turn everything upside down. (They don’t know how to win, but they know how to defeat a party – also from Chanakya Niti/opposite to Vivekanand’s thoughts.)

The point is, I vote for one who works for my nation. And whenever we are discussing politics in our family group I’m from the truth’s side. No matter what the party is. Because I accept that everyone is not perfect, whoever is on the seat has something good and something bad. You can dislike them by comparing their works to others, but it doesn’t mean they don’t know how to run the nation. Accept this: “कोई भी देश perfect नहीं होता, उसे perfect बनाना पड़ता है..."

PC: Machax through Google

I can’t always expect ‘movies’ to be the best. This year, I had to watch older movies because I didn’t like watching the new ones in theatre. (To be honest, Bahubali-2 was also worse than Bahubali-1) though I was happy as we were at the best in wrestling. Even though we lost our cricket worldcup before Pakistan, the test series were too good because of Kohli and Sharma. (Obviously, I’m talking about Rohit Sharma!)

‘To accept’ is the hardest for me when it comes to study and curriculum. This year, even though I accepted myself with my interests and studies, it is still too hard to keep it going. Those who are stressed about what people will say or parents will say, must not get to the point in life when they don’t get themselves. (Nope, I didn’t face this situation.)

The way you keep yourself positive for all the situations is: ‘Accept your success. Accept your failures.’ People call me ‘all rounder’, which can be true. But only when, I’m on the limelight with my confidence. I don’t care about people when I’m on the stage, because it is 'my' performance; and I don’t care about people when I’m in the dustbin because it is all about finding a thrown diamond. If people call me arrogant; well, I am. I am, for my positive attitude. And I am proud, when I follow my vow: ‘To accept’.

Filmy time:

I laughed after writing the 'I don't care about people' part as I remembered Rachel from FRIENDS.

She: "Everyone says you're a shoe, you're a shoe.

But what if I want to be a... Purse"

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He replied something on phone.

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She: "I'm not saying I need a purse... It's a metaphor Daddy" 

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See, she accepted what she was and thought of her future as what she wanted to become.

Men

His eyes are gloomy,

Because when I look at him-

Smiling;

His lips, smirking:

It seems like some joke to me.

I know-

I'm not the reason,

And also

The reason I don’t know.

He is used to be

A person - tough guy,

Who can’t share,

Who can’t shed tears,

Because- 

He was taught

To be strong:

Keeping inside everything.

Everything-

His fears, his griefs.

At last,

On one fine day,

I asked him,

“What is it?”

And

I’m sure I was conscious-

Fully,

When he said,

“Nothing,

I’m sleepy.”

I made this poem when I was sleepy and I realized that men are this simple. You see him all mysterious, but there’s nothing in his mind!

Let me start from the beginning.

I would like to share this as it is one of my favorites:

“There is peaceful. There is wild.

I am both at the same time.”

-Sum

This is true, because I’ve observed (seen, actually! It’s common!) my Paa. I don’t know why they are like that, but I’m assuming it must be because of their work. Yes, they are more dedicated to their work. Where women are good at multitasking; on the other side I see men more devoted to their work. It is the ‘responsibility’ feature that their parents have grown inside of him. You see, in childhood they may be mischievous, and even grown up men can be disoriented or lost, but at the end, they know that the whole responsibility of their family will come under their hands and they have to then manage all the things. It’s not only Indian culture that we see them responsible, it’s everywhere. Not because of the family thing, but even if they want to live their life on their own terms, they are not dependent on their parents for long time. Perhaps the chief factor behind it is ‘ego’!

My apologies to your burning hearts, but it’s crystal clear. From making a family to breaking someone’s heart, there’s always the ego that explains everything. To be independent, to spend the money, they want their jobs faster so that they don’t have to beg for money from their parents. And I’m not saying that it is there all the time, because sometimes parents also forces this behavior, taunting: “You are a grown up now. And you do nothing. Get a job.” They want to make their son responsible, but the ego fires inside him and they take job for nothing but money. Responsibility can come directly or through ego. So, responsibility is one thing a woman should acquire (Not ego, which is what expanding actually nowadays). Be responsible, girl! Don’t blame your husband.

Planning: this point comes under men being simple. I know most of us are not good at it, but still, men are better at planning than women. They have thought everything from very earlier, and so they are better at it; with following too.

Let me contradict myself: Women like mysterious men.

So, all men are simple but mysterious! Ha Ha!! See, they are simple, so woman thinks (just like the poem written above) that he is thinking something. He is hiding something. At the end, that’s nothing and that’s why he becomes mysterious! (Reread, if you don’t get it, because it’s mysteriously hard to explain this simple thing!)

Via Facebook

INTERPRETATION: What do we want?

Men want Beauty with brain

Women want Muscularity with good sense of humor

MISsed-INTERPRETATION:

(Answer for ‘it is complicated’ and ‘we are just friends’)

1. He thinks of her friendship as love.

2. She thinks of his love as friendship.

-JV

Filmy Time:

Iske baad bhi agar insaan kisi kone me jake betha hai na chupchap, toh kya, ghadi ghadi,

‘Kya soch rahe ho? Kya soch rahe ho? Kya soch rahe ho?’

Arey kuchh nahi soch raha meri maa, ye soch raha hoon ki tera mooh kaise band karoon!

‘Kya soch raha hoon’, camera laga doon dimag me? 

-All time favorite,

‘Pyaar Ka Punchnama’ (2011)

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