Becoming A Med Student

“Scholars get admission in medical. It’s not your field!”

First of all, study harder in your high school years and when you get admission, say: “in your face!”

No, this never happened with me, but I surely would have done this! Ha ha!

People should know that it is hard to be stuck at your routine. High school years, for some people like me, are tough when there’s not a thing for entertainment. Our TV had been off for those years; Paa had said “No” for novel reading; no outings with friends; maybe watched one movie in the theatre for whole of the year. Although I used to do Facebook in my PC for a while, but it was strictly scheduled. When my high school was gonna start, my Paa asked me if I wanted a mobile and I denied easily. I was in contact with my friends through family phone; I didn’t want any other distractions.

People like me also get bored when there is nothing else to do. I started writing then, in my 12^th. My classmates used to take those books from me, because they liked reading those stories and was the only entertainment thing for them too. Sometimes I think if that was my not-so-good-decision, the writing, but no, I don’t regret it. Although I think I should have studied more than that. Even when my Paa asked me if I wanted to take the exam of GUJCET again after a year’s gap, but I said no. I regretted nothing. Well, where I’m right now is good. Sometimes I think it is better than other colleges, because at the end, you have your friends and classmates here and you know that it can’t be better than this.

·         Are you sure you want to be a Dr? Why? Get these answers ready first.

(Do not say: my family’s wish, Maths is boring so Biology, do not want to be an engineer, etc.)

·         So, if you’re in search of medical science, don’t worry. Get easy with your routine but never lose it. Stay firm in your passion. If you want to be doctor, marks won’t affect you. Just have a will to be a doctor and one of these options:

1.       Good marks in NEET

2.       Rich family

3.       Middle class family (middle-middle or lower-middle or lower) SEARCH ABOUT CM SCHOLARSHIP AND OTHERS

4.       Middle class family: there are EDUCATION LOANS too.

So, if you’re not getting admission in government, don’t worry. There are other ways. You just have to be firm with your passion and be fixed to your study.

·         Do not listen to people who are distracting you. If you want to be a Dr, remember there should be no option B. vice versa, you should not come in medical field if you’re dedicated to other field. I’m that one in this example. I didn’t regret my decision of this college but the decision of getting admission in ‘medical’ branch. I know, it was all happy moment for me and my family when my admission was confirmed, but after a few days I felt like I didn’t belong here. Around 2 years passed, and then I got myself back. My old high-school-self, who used to study for her own sake. I have even seen students here who had good marks in first year but due to disinterest in studies and field, they got consistently poor. Only one thing is there that can lead you to become a good Dr and it is the constant wish to become one.

·         Marks don’t matter; how you treat the patient matters. And marks will only show up in your sheet when you have good understanding of the diseases (So marks do matter). Study hard but study effectively. Study to treat the patient. Study to get admission for your PG entrance. Don’t just do IMPs for passing the exam. Instead of slowing someone down, get some speed. Study in groups, teach and learn. Study with interest.

·         Keep in mind: you’re nothing special. So what if you have get your medical admission!? There are thousands of students in this branch. So what if you’re first among them? Celebrate, but at the end, you’re studying with other 100-200 students in the same college. Be happy. Be thankful. But keep in mind: always be ready to learn. Yes, you’re good with knowledge, so share it instead of just showing off.

At the end, nothing is hard. You’re here or will be here with your passion. This field needs your constant concentration and hard work, otherwise there’s nothing hard about it. Outsider studying MBBS is as hard as a Dr studying an arts course without interest. It is all about will.

Weddings

…where I can get good food. (veere zidd apni)

Writing this one after attending lots of marriages. Yes, I still am in search of weddings. Have you visited any close one? Because when it ends, it feels like school days after vacation. You know, returning back to your routine where you have to listen to your boss, or your teacher, or your patient, and you feel like nothing’s going right. Yes, obviously you’re not meant to deal with bad situations for all days and for whole of the day; you’re meant to have a gulabjamun after completing an assignment, but instead what you get is another assignment for your lonely selfless night.

               

If it’s your marriage, you’ll definitely feel like Kalindi (Kareena Kapoor Khan) from Veere Di Wedding. I accept that the movie was super duper bakwas and there was nothing in the story. But girl! I loved the characters. What they felt like or how the actors performed didn’t matter. Plot is not realistic but obviously how can it be? It is Bollywood. So looking towards the character only; it’s well shown that she thought it happened too fast or something happened that shouldn’t have. Every person before the marriage may think, “I think I proposed too early” or “I think I won’t be able to handle a whole new family”. For others it may be the festival, but for them it’s like a war. A big battle they are fighting with own self and I don’t know why but they never come to any side till they’re at the wedding hall ­­– well-dressed. Why does the bride have to look back at the door to find her hero so that she can run with him and why does the groom have to stand in front of the mirror for the first time in his life just before the ceremony!? I would like to ask, is that pressure the same as an exam pressure or much more than that or nothing at all compared to it?

Let’s have some info:

There are 8 types of marriages in Hindu Dharma:

1.       Brahma Vivah: girl’s father asks boy. Dowry system.

2.       Prajapatya Vivah: boy asks girl’s father. Happily get married.

3.       Daiva Vivah: Father impressed by boy. Gives daughter as a gift.

4.       Rishi Vivah: Rishi asks King. King gives Princess and cows for Rishi’s life.

5.       Gandharva Vivah: girl and boy like each other. Run away to get married.

6.       Rakshas Vivah: girl is ready. Kidnapping her with/out her permission. Then they get married.

7.       Asura Vivah: boy gives money to buy girl.

8.       Pishacha Vivah: forcible marriage.

And thank your God that in 21^st century, most of you are not dealing with all of these tensions. Your only thoughts are: she’s also getting married, I’m not getting any husband, I will be forever alone, food should not have to be bad!

Honestly, this movie does not deserve much attention but obviously ‘Love Breakups Zindagi’ does. Half of the movie is in wedding ceremony and you would love to watch how little conversations with unknown ones attach us. You would be surprised to see how family is so important; not that we are together for the ceremony, but they’re with us as our backbone. It’s amazing how bride’s maids are there all the time with the bride, handling her, in selfishness of having good pictures in the album. Believe it or not, but when the family with wedding ceremony thinks that they have to deal with people’s critics and should spend (read: waste) more money, they don’t know that people don’t come there actually for looking at their happy life but for being a part of their happy life.

Weddings are always about celebrating the feeling that you have. By dancing. By singing. People must understand that weddings should not make you tiresome. Don’t take so much stress that you can’t even enjoy your own ceremony. Don’t attend weddings if you don’t feel like it. People like me who criticize food should not pass comments to everyone. Be a part of happiness. Enjoy. Cry the tears of joy. At the end, listen to the Shehnai playing in your heart. (It’s saying ‘you’re happy’ and not ‘you should get married’.)

PS. I’m the liking-old-kind-of-weddings person. I like to dance on dhol and shehnai rather than dj (exception: Atul Dada’s garba) I like old wedding songs where old grannys curse the bride or the groom, whoever is on the opposite side. I like to throw flowers towards bride and groom literally disturbing them in the 7फेरे rather than sitting on a chair and greeting them with flower petals. No, I don’t like musicals ringing in background but the voice of people chattering. I know I’m old-school but I love it. This should be preserved as people are missing out from the actual celebration. Let me know what you like in weddings and how you like it – new tradition or old one.

Happyness

“That maybe happiness is something that we can only pursue and maybe we can actually never have it. No matter what.”

-The Pursuit of Happyness (2006)

I am happy. Well, I did ask everyone if they’re in search of anything. So, this one is what I got in one of the answers. Yes, I too am in search of it. I’m happy, but… (read above quote)

The way we get happy is different. When I was little, for me, happiness was not going to KG school. When I started going to my primary school, I loved my routine. There were moments when I had got prizes, and was so happy that I almost cried living those moments. When I’m living my college life, I’m not so happy about it not even when I get prizes; but I’m when I’m with my friends passing comments in the ongoing lecture or when I’m with my whole family. For me, Happ’y’ness has always been “I loved your work/song/weirdness” (in detail, of course! That’s how I know that actually you have listened to me or read me) rather than “Hey, you look good!” (Urgh… I always look good!)

Happy moments are big. Really?

For me, not attending KG was big; getting gifts was big; and now it’s either very big as getting a job of a millionaire or a little happy moment of eating an ice-cream (big moment for a child, yeah!).

People often ask me, “you don’t like your college, right?”

And I have to say, every time, “it’s all about the situation.”

It is as simple as not liking my school as all of my batch mates won’t be there now; my favorite teachers are either there have forgotten me or got retired from the school (some will be there, still remembering me, but it’s not the same); and me being too old for schools (which I never thought of actually).

So, right now, I love my college. I want to live every moment of my college life and I’m living. How I study, what lectures I bunk, is all upon me and I love it. I know, because I’m firm with my decisions and I’m never gonna regret a thing. If you’re just going there, for nothing, then don’t push yourself. I’m not saying you should leave everything, what I’m saying is you must understand yourself and the way you’re gonna feel better than this. The way your life makes you happy and the way you make your life happy is up to you. When you laugh reading or listening to a joke, are you pushing yourself? No! Happyness comes when you accept who you are, what you do, and what affects you.

When you think your life is hurting you or God is punishing you, when you think “Why me?”, there you don’t hesitate for a moment making your happiness rely on other things. Why do that? When Jerry had this great operation where the doctors and nurses personally knew him, where they were shocked seeing him happy rather than being confused or sad for knowing that operation may or may not be successful, he only said: “Good luck team. I hope you make this successful. Either I’ll have a few minutes of happy life or I’ll have a long happy life. What I can choose is to live it happily or not. I chose one option. Now it’s your time, why are you sad?” and operation went successful. (School-time story)

I like travelling since I was a child. I liked roller coaster and all the rides, now I don’t. I feel like I’ve wasted my time and money. I like nature. My friend, opposite to me, likes rides fairly more than nature. She blames me. I blame her. At the end, we both are happy doing what we love. She sits in rides; I sit waiting for her outside that crowded place.

Yes, it’s perverse when you feel happy being one Raman Raghav (I’m talking about real, not the artistic movie with the same name); when you laugh at some Sridevi jokes; when you’re satisfied seeing someone’s fall in her/his career. Be happy when you’re promoted, what good will it be to you seeing someone falling?

Tips:

• Go somewhere/Be alone for a while.
• Have a get-together with friends (old/new): studies show friends make you happy more than anything else in the world (not even family) about 70%
• Cry for a while.
•  Look back to your past. Sweet memories will remind you of the happiness and you’ll be happy. Bad memories will strengthen you for future saying what you did was great. If this is reversed, remind yourself to be happy for everything. Why?! Because, “Happyness”.
• Remind yourself to be happy always. Your heart will be cheerful and mind will like that, so HE will accept it instantly and will follow the lead always.
• Think what makes you actually happy. Do that.
• Make your surrounding colorful.
• At the end,

ज़िंदगीभर जियो, हँसो, मुस्कुराओ,

क्या पता, कल दाँत हो ना हो...

PS. Answer to Avani

PSS. "Happyness" word has some "feels"... (In case, you're wondering)

Roots of Motivation

Exam is coming | sibling’s wedding is there | My mind is all messed up.

So what I need is motivation.

You don’t realize but motivation comes in odd kind of ways, and you’re motivated when you have least expected it.

So, here’s what I believe:

You’re a tree. The branches are all your work. But to grow yourself and to remain healthy and positive, you need water and nutrition, which is knowledge. Now, to gain it, you expect your limbs and brain to do some efforts and that’s how you’ll grow. To take the nutrition and water, you’ll definitely need the root. The chief root is motivation.

From a cartoonist to a writer, from an actor to a politician, from a family member or a friend to an unknown social media follower, I take inspiration. My idols are too many. It’s not that they all have to be creative or some great people! Everyone is unique. If you’re following one as a role model, aren’t you doing injustice to yourself? You’re a whole different person; just think that you and your idol are from different families, schools, at least, you’ve faced different situations in life; if you’ll follow her/him alone, doesn’t mean that you will be able to become that person; you won’t even be yourself. Some live their life to the fullest and some do not; some people like to be at work and some like to do art and travelling; some people are happy alone and some like to spend their time with friends and family; some people want to change the world and some people want to change their surroundings only: what you do and from what you get inspired is total different and still can be the same. It doesn’t mean you must be at some place at some time with certain people; motivation is all about handling the uncertain places and situations with different kind of people. (Even if you want to be with a certain your-type-of person, how long does it take her/him to be changed? And well, at the end, situations are always different.)

I always thought that it was my weakness that I needed motivation after some time. To keep yourself motivated is not a weakness. You’re not a robot that always feels the same and is motivated in all the circumstances.

There are two kinds of people:

1. (This one includes me) Who work great under pressure

2. Who can’t work under pressure (You know, who get depressed)

Even I tell my friends to scold me in my reading vacation. It’s good for me that I know what pressure does to me instead of depressing me but still most of the time I’m relaxed. When they think it’s too less time left for exams, I don’t feel that.  (Yes, pressure comes when you’re concerned about that thing.) So, at exam times, 

• I prefer to read self-help motivational books and to watch YouTube videos. 

• I make a timetable. (Make one, so that you’ll have at least 3 things done out of 10 instead of doing nothing at all.) (‘Timetable’ chapter (Gujarati) from school time taught me this: make one even though you can’t follow it; at least you won’t regret not making one. Even our railways can’t follow timetable!)

• I eat, a lot, (side effects of studying), and drink water in study intervals.

• I like writing my diary. (Dear diary, it’s __ o’clock and I’ve read nothing due to__ but will complete at least __ chapters. Saw that video, and I’m gonna apply what the video taught me; let’s see if that works or not.)

There are situations when you want to keep going and for that you want to motivate yourself but get this creator’s block! You have no idea what to do! And sometimes, something (like this tree above) inspires you!

PS. I am writing this blog during my exam time. I know. But it’s because of a secret: I thought I will study more in my TY but I didn’t. Now, you know, exam time is here and you can’t do more than the whole year study (in the last month or week). I did a bit more, due to these motivations! I tried to remind myself how marks used to affect me in school days and my friends and I  used to be ‘rivals’! And a serial which motivated me on the third episode (and which I’m gonna continue watching after my exams because I can’t watch 45 minutes’ episodes); A Dr. about whom I know nothing motivated me (he is not a big surgeon or anything, not even from my family, still); and a random old Mahabharat episode did that too.

Movies Like Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham

Seriously, why can't this movie be remade!?

It's not that SRK is my fav actor and I love the pair and all, it's all about family. So, this one is all: __ reasons to watch K3G

1. Actors, obviously:

They are all good and young (except Kareena: over-acting; but well, it suits her). Bachchan is doing the great 'Paa' role who is so much into the culture thing - just like Mohabbatein movie. SRK is the adopted son and beloved to his mom (typical bollywood). Kido actors are all too good. Hrithik is okay, but his acting comes up with all music in the background and his oh-so-sad-face. (It's so much emotional to see 3 actors crying in bollywood: Amitabh, SRK, and Hrithik. And they are all in this movie, that's why it's damn-lady-you're-crying emotional movie!)(Whoa! Why Hollywood movies don't show the male actors crying? I mean, I can't even remember any scene! Well, Ryan Gosling makes me cry, so he can be in the list, MAYBE)
I don't like Jaya Bachchan, so can't comment on her. Kajol is the best in this movie. Even though it is all due to her Kuch Kuch Hota Hai - 'Anjali' role, it's different than that. In the previous movie, she's all grown up & mature (read, serious) instantly, and in K3G, even though she is shown as a mom, she's too cool keeping her character. There are emotions for her son, her husband, her nation, her 'Babuji', but there is still the old Anjali inside her. I know it's about the story, but that turn of liveliness in maturity is seen in K3G's Anjali and not KKHH's.

2. Story:

It's a family movie. It was known to be the modern family thing in old times. How the business is set from generation to generation, how they live, how the people see all those rich-respected families, and how everyone wants their family together but can't keep it. People say there is over exaggeration: I accept that, otherwise this movie would not be the same. (Mostly the London times, I agree) Still, how the story is set is perfect. Even though we want to be together, there are questions of the certainty that the other person will accept us. There is something in us that we can't say how much we love a person, we can't say how we can't live without them. There's ego that we can't share our problems with our inferiors. The story is all told in 2 scenes: 'Mr. Raichand stood up straight and his wife standing in front of him, on a chair, setting his tie on the suit' and after years, 'She is having a पूजा की थाली in her hands, stood straight in front of Mr. Raichand, without chair, and he is bending his head for tilak'; all about Mr. Raichand saying a dialogue: "कह दिया, बस कह दिया" showing his ego and position, to Mrs. Raichand saying the same in the climax.

3. Direction and Music:

I know, we all laughed when AIB roast had this 'aaaa' music fun from the Dharma Production which belongs to this movie, but actually, it is good. The Tabla and Sitar music in the background make this movie so much more Indian! The storytelling and the direction, so modern for those days, lead this movie to a level on which 'Hum Sath Sath Hai' or 'Hum Apke Hai Kaun' couldn't get to. We all think that the songs that our bollywood movies have are not worth our time. (How can you watch 3-4 hours of movie with total time pass songs in the middle!?) Well, on that point, I loved Priyanka Chopra, when she was asked about the 'La La Land' in the Jimmy Fallon show and she said, "That movie is really good. The actors did it well. But there's nothing new for us. Actors dancing on the songs in the romantic movies is common in our Bollywood."
*Me clapping: "Bravo... Bravo..." *

4. Dialogues:

A. The above mentioned one in point1.
B. अगर ज़िन्दगी में कुछ बनना हो, कुछ हाँसिल करना हो, जितना चाहते हो... (Watch the movie, seriously!)
C. Whole of the 'अशफ़ाक़ मियाँ' part
D. All the dialogues of Johnny Lever.
E. "Hallelujah" by Poo (અમદાવાદી ભાષામાં કઇએ તો- 'કલર')
F. Not the dialogue, but acting of both Jr and Sr Raichands on "बाबूजी जैसा बनना चाहता हूँ, जैसा वो चलते है...अभी खड़े है, वैसे..."
G. "Cookies... I love cookies... इससे अच्छे तो हम चांदनी चौक में ही थे" part

Etc. Etc.

Bookish Time: 
Even though K3G is KJo's the biggest hit (even though it broke the blockbuster records and earned a lot), he was depressed at the release time due to news on 'Lagaan' being nominated for Oscar. Yes, no one today remembers both movies were released in the same week. (Don't compare 'em, people!)

PS. I have my answers ready if you say anything bad about this movie. I know we have different perspectives, but still, try to watch it what it actually is.

PSS. I watched Bahubali because people forced me. I'm not doing that to you. But if you have even 1% of doubt that your views can change after this, please watch it. (It comes on television every week!)

Facts of bookish Time and pics from KJo's biography: An Unsuitable Boy