A Perfect Climax of 2017

Yes, in search of a perfect climax to 2017! You know, why should I put this title? Because I want to make sure that the next commitment that I’m gonna make to 2018 must be followed/completed unlike 2017. The new life does not come with the New Year!

And so, this time, I didn’t have to wait until the end of the year. On one usual December night, I got this thought. And what did I learn from 2017 is: To Accept.

It is too hard for people like me who have got anger and egoistic nature in their inheritance. It is too hard to accept people talking all the crap; hard to even listen to them! The marriage season is here nowadays and so everyone is on their highest stress level. We want everything perfect in future, and so we’re ruining our present. (I keep myself engaged and make sure that future will be all okay after my sista would leave her old home. She and my Mi are busy shopping. We all are missing our precious time, but that’s okay whenever we are all together😊)

Instead of stressing out, I must keep myself contained because I’m gonna enjoy the marriage season and my sista will be happy in future and that turn needs not to be straight. Many times I keep thinking that this life will come to an end, and so you have to accept it because it is not in your hand. So, you only have options: to accept them earlier with happiness or to accept those facts after getting high BP. At the end, YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT.

What to do if you love someone? You can’t change that. Forget all the crap of ‘एक तरफ़ा प्यारकी ताकत ही कुछ और होती है...’ and all that, but accept that you love her/him even if the decision of the person is not as same. Accept that your feelings will also change in future.

You can’t change your past. Accept what already did happen and think about the future. (Believe me, demonetization worked. Not the way you wanted it to, but it did. And yes, there was nothing stressful about it, for common people too, still they were disturbing themselves because they were all unaware of the facts and the news. So now, that you can’t change your rupees notes to the older ones; why should you consider demonetization as some de-motivation to your nation? PS. I’m not ‘Modi-Bhakta’)

Other things for politics from this year, is elections. Chanakya said that, “a leader of the nation must have a strong opponent to keep the work at its perfect pace and to the peak performance.” At the start of the year, we saw Akhilesh and Rahul Gandhi reunion for the UP elections. People mocked them because of the event that followed the election propaganda. BJP won the UP elections. After that Nitishkumar (Bihar) supported Modi which topped all the news channels for a while and too much things happened then. Rahul Gandhi worked on his image and personality, and the Gujarat elections showed the results – ‘they didn’t win but they also didn’t lose.’ (Tharoor said.) BJP works smartly, as they know how to turn everything upside down. (They don’t know how to win, but they know how to defeat a party – also from Chanakya Niti/opposite to Vivekanand’s thoughts.)

The point is, I vote for one who works for my nation. And whenever we are discussing politics in our family group I’m from the truth’s side. No matter what the party is. Because I accept that everyone is not perfect, whoever is on the seat has something good and something bad. You can dislike them by comparing their works to others, but it doesn’t mean they don’t know how to run the nation. Accept this: “कोई भी देश perfect नहीं होता, उसे perfect बनाना पड़ता है..."

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I can’t always expect ‘movies’ to be the best. This year, I had to watch older movies because I didn’t like watching the new ones in theatre. (To be honest, Bahubali-2 was also worse than Bahubali-1) though I was happy as we were at the best in wrestling. Even though we lost our cricket worldcup before Pakistan, the test series were too good because of Kohli and Sharma. (Obviously, I’m talking about Rohit Sharma!)

‘To accept’ is the hardest for me when it comes to study and curriculum. This year, even though I accepted myself with my interests and studies, it is still too hard to keep it going. Those who are stressed about what people will say or parents will say, must not get to the point in life when they don’t get themselves. (Nope, I didn’t face this situation.)

The way you keep yourself positive for all the situations is: ‘Accept your success. Accept your failures.’ People call me ‘all rounder’, which can be true. But only when, I’m on the limelight with my confidence. I don’t care about people when I’m on the stage, because it is 'my' performance; and I don’t care about people when I’m in the dustbin because it is all about finding a thrown diamond. If people call me arrogant; well, I am. I am, for my positive attitude. And I am proud, when I follow my vow: ‘To accept’.

Filmy time:

I laughed after writing the 'I don't care about people' part as I remembered Rachel from FRIENDS.

She: "Everyone says you're a shoe, you're a shoe.

But what if I want to be a... Purse"

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He replied something on phone.

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She: "I'm not saying I need a purse... It's a metaphor Daddy" 

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See, she accepted what she was and thought of her future as what she wanted to become.

Men

His eyes are gloomy,

Because when I look at him-

Smiling;

His lips, smirking:

It seems like some joke to me.

I know-

I'm not the reason,

And also

The reason I don’t know.

He is used to be

A person - tough guy,

Who can’t share,

Who can’t shed tears,

Because- 

He was taught

To be strong:

Keeping inside everything.

Everything-

His fears, his griefs.

At last,

On one fine day,

I asked him,

“What is it?”

And

I’m sure I was conscious-

Fully,

When he said,

“Nothing,

I’m sleepy.”

I made this poem when I was sleepy and I realized that men are this simple. You see him all mysterious, but there’s nothing in his mind!

Let me start from the beginning.

I would like to share this as it is one of my favorites:

“There is peaceful. There is wild.

I am both at the same time.”

-Sum

This is true, because I’ve observed (seen, actually! It’s common!) my Paa. I don’t know why they are like that, but I’m assuming it must be because of their work. Yes, they are more dedicated to their work. Where women are good at multitasking; on the other side I see men more devoted to their work. It is the ‘responsibility’ feature that their parents have grown inside of him. You see, in childhood they may be mischievous, and even grown up men can be disoriented or lost, but at the end, they know that the whole responsibility of their family will come under their hands and they have to then manage all the things. It’s not only Indian culture that we see them responsible, it’s everywhere. Not because of the family thing, but even if they want to live their life on their own terms, they are not dependent on their parents for long time. Perhaps the chief factor behind it is ‘ego’!

My apologies to your burning hearts, but it’s crystal clear. From making a family to breaking someone’s heart, there’s always the ego that explains everything. To be independent, to spend the money, they want their jobs faster so that they don’t have to beg for money from their parents. And I’m not saying that it is there all the time, because sometimes parents also forces this behavior, taunting: “You are a grown up now. And you do nothing. Get a job.” They want to make their son responsible, but the ego fires inside him and they take job for nothing but money. Responsibility can come directly or through ego. So, responsibility is one thing a woman should acquire (Not ego, which is what expanding actually nowadays). Be responsible, girl! Don’t blame your husband.

Planning: this point comes under men being simple. I know most of us are not good at it, but still, men are better at planning than women. They have thought everything from very earlier, and so they are better at it; with following too.

Let me contradict myself: Women like mysterious men.

So, all men are simple but mysterious! Ha Ha!! See, they are simple, so woman thinks (just like the poem written above) that he is thinking something. He is hiding something. At the end, that’s nothing and that’s why he becomes mysterious! (Reread, if you don’t get it, because it’s mysteriously hard to explain this simple thing!)

Via Facebook

INTERPRETATION: What do we want?

Men want Beauty with brain

Women want Muscularity with good sense of humor

MISsed-INTERPRETATION:

(Answer for ‘it is complicated’ and ‘we are just friends’)

1. He thinks of her friendship as love.

2. She thinks of his love as friendship.

-JV

Filmy Time:

Iske baad bhi agar insaan kisi kone me jake betha hai na chupchap, toh kya, ghadi ghadi,

‘Kya soch rahe ho? Kya soch rahe ho? Kya soch rahe ho?’

Arey kuchh nahi soch raha meri maa, ye soch raha hoon ki tera mooh kaise band karoon!

‘Kya soch raha hoon’, camera laga doon dimag me? 

-All time favorite,

‘Pyaar Ka Punchnama’ (2011)

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Women

This blog is about most of the girls, except me, but still consider me as included, because I used to say, “I’m different than other girls”; then I got to know that most of the girls say this cliché. So, yes! Even though I don’t like it, but I’m among these girls!

So, let’s say the eternal truth:

कीर्ति: श्रीर्वाक्च नारिणां स्मृतिर्मेधा धृति: क्षमा ।।

Chapter 10; Verse 34
Bhagvad Gita

Whole of the chapter, in which Lord Krishna gives his intro as, “I’m in this and that”, and says this verse too. The meaning is, “I’m in woman’s Kirti (glory, fame), Lakshmi (prosperity), Vaani (speech), Smriti (memory), Buddhi (brain and mind), Dhiraj (patience), and Kshama (forgiveness). The word we say ‘Chaturya’(ingenuity) maybe came from this.

Most of the time, we say, women like mysterious men. But, perhaps the reason is behind them being that way. Women are mysterious: even they don’t know what they want. Men are simple; they know what they want with their success, they know where their relationship is going (that’s why only women ask this question, kidding!), they know what steps have to be taken for the next generation. Women are more like ‘Go with the flow’.

The ingenuity comes by birth. They are mysterious, but they can find their own way. Her ‘brain’ is developed in the way that she can handle multiple things at the same time. She has the ‘patience’ of cooking on a slow burning flame so that the recipe can be tastier. She ‘remembers’ your one month anniversary to make you feel special (and as a human, expects too). With ‘brain’ and ‘speech’, she becomes a perfect bride for your family and adds on the ‘glory’. She comes with ‘prosperity’ as she, herself, is the donation. Cheat her once, and you’ll see, for her family’s sake, she’ll ‘forgive’ you. Tell me why Krishna should not have mentioned this?

I’m not saying every woman has these qualities, but most of them do have. (Want to agree with me? Okay, don’t think of your friends, girlfriend, or wife, (huh!). Think of your mom. Now you agree, right?) And still, if you find her functioning worse than unusual, either she is over thinking something or crying inside. Remember at that time, she doesn’t need your advice; she just needs your support!

People say women are crazy about looking beautiful. Well, women also want to be involved in business but they don’t get much chance (exposure to that field). It is as same as men being mad about movies or videogames or else (see, so many fields they are exposed to). At the end, what we (both) want is family and freedom (controversial!).

‘AD’vices:

1. Be an observer, not a stalker.

2. Propose her on a rollercoaster-ride or after fast drive. Dopamine secretions will be increased. And then the chances of ‘yes’ will be more. –Prit Kiye Sukh Hoy (by Jay Vasavada)

Filmy-time:

“Ek ladki sirf itna chahti hai ki koi use itna pyar kare jitna kisine kisise na kiya ho…”

Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi (2008)

Why do boys like this movie more than girls do?



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Nightmares

“Experience is a key to knowledge.”

I agree with this, but it also seems the same if we remember our dreams!

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A few days ago, I marked something. Due to a college event, I stayed awake till the morning. No, it was not work, it was the-next-day-excitement. So, when I woke up after four and half hour of restless sleep, I realized I hadn’t had any dreams. When you don’t dream (you always do, but just can’t remember every day), you think you had the wonderful sleep without disturbance.

So, when I tell you to think of your nightmares, you must be reminding yourself not to memorize that horrible dream. Well, let me say this, the dreams or the nightmares are actually your new experiences.

Get yourself together, because you know those dreams of crushes and love, and I’m going to talk about it. Those dreams really make you weak. After seeing them, you get to know that it isn’t a big deal! Sometimes you force yourself to forget the crushes and their dreams or sometimes you behave so good with your lover that you literally can find yourself a bit of changed than the other days, and it’s just because your lover treated you better in your dreams and now those feelings are begging you to do the same. Sometimes you find yourself controlling your smile in front of your crush because that dream is making you weak.

I’ve seen the dreams in which I want to marry Hritik Roshan even though he’s not so favorite to me (Nope, not in the crush list!), and the next day I loved watching his ads! This fever remains for one to two days and then I’m the same as I have been ever before.

You must have seen horrible nightmares, those with full of ghosts and witches. When you wake up suddenly, you run to grab someone’s hand in terms of protection. At least, you tell that dream to someone as it helps you to relieve your fear.

Those nightmares, when you see your loved ones dying. So much pain in the dream that you cry in real or you can’t even cry but you feel headache with frowning of your eyebrows.

So, today why am I in search of these nightmares?

When I was a kid, I read this somewhere: watching dreams is the process when your brain is emptying the recycle bin. (It might be true, I love magical sci-fi!) The point is, when I see these dreams, I become weak but at the next moment I know what steps I must take. These dreams are the experiences you get without having the external world changed.

I know you might be doing the same unknowingly, because we all want our heads clear. Because I want to make sure to have an answer prepared about whom should I choose for myself: Hritik or Shahrukh? Because I want myself together, to confront a devil, with Hanuman Chalisa ready in my mind. Because a moment will come when the person I love the most will die in front of me but I will be there handling others and myself.

So, I would rather say, cry for a moment today, but be happy. Be happy, that you got to handle the situation before it actually occurring, that there will be a second chance when you’ll not cry but face it like a boss. We know this, definitely, because our solved question paper gives us full marks when we attend it again.

Filmy Time:

Mere Khayalo ki mallika,

Charo’n taraf teri chhaiya’n re

Tham le aake baiya’n…

Our hero saw a dream-girl, sang the song, did all the fights, and got the girl.

He knew the steps he had to take to make the dream real.

See!

Confusion

Those who are gonna be confused if it’s about death or family, it’s about me afraid of being far away from my family.

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“Where are you going?”
“Away.”
One of the most horrible dreams I’ve ever seen. I was dying and I was afraid.
I don’t know why but this Navratri I had too many thoughts on Death. I was finding my answers in Novels, ‘Quora’, and ‘Bhagvad Gita’. (I got the idea of my next story from those thoughts and question-answers). Even after reading ‘Gita’ again and again every year, there’s always something new you’ll find in it. Your answers will be there, that’s for sure. I recently got to know that Bhagatsingh was an atheist and still he used to keep ‘Gita’ with him all the time!
So, I was too confused. What to choose for my career? For me, family is too important, but my future seems still hazy to me. I’m living my college life, and I’m only sure of myself that I’m gonna do something good and nothing else. Once I had a thought of living my life outside India, but I was not sure. Here came the question of family. Everything is too perfect here, and I also want to leave the comfort zone. The confusion was: what if my family is my life! I mean, what if leaving everything behind is not the right option? Then I thought of myself living the particular life that everyone lives, and again came the question of the purpose of my life. On one shiny day, I got the idea: just go with the flow. Again, I got confused. What if that’s weakness?
After analysis of a few books and inspirations, after starting ‘Gita’ again, I’m finally okay now. Not knowing is okay, I’ve already said that in one of my previous blogs. I was being sad for no reason at all; there’s after all nothing I can do about my death! Let’s live then! Until that time, I must live everything. I must visit my dream places. I must spend my quality time with my family. And at the end, when I’m gonna be sad, for leaving my family to visit different places or for spending my time with my family instead of wandering around and exploring the nature, I must remind myself to live that moment. ‘Move on’: that’s what I keep in my mind and that’s what I shall keep in my mind.
We are emotional being. It’s just the matter of family. I was born in a healthy family environment. I’ve always celebrated Diwali with whole of my family, and I’ve also been here once with only my parents- without grandparents and cousins and all. So, I was very little when I got to know the importance of family. I know people who don’t know a thing about joint family; who even don’t live in a family! Not their fault, but they don’t understand the value of relationships and they become emotional fools.

A beautiful thing my sister said to me at the time of my failure: “It’s a little problem. I’ve been there. Thank god, we have a beautiful family unlike others.” I was relieved. That huge failure didn’t then seem bigger after realizing that I had a perfect family, a support to me. So, today, when I become confuse on these ‘future’ things, I think it is harder for me to decide my destiny than other people as I’ve got this comforting environment, but this confusion is my happiness.

PS. You must have got the reason behind me putting this title!

Filmy Time:

“Happiness only real when shared.”

-Into The Wild (2007)

A Lovestory

 “Romeo and Juliet, ek amar prem kahani…

…Anyone?...Rahul?”

“…Hmm?”

“Pyar kya hai?”

“Pyar dosti hai–”

Stop there! We’re not here for a gossip on Kuchh Kuchh Hota hai; we're not here to even have a talk on love. It's about the story!

I actually don’t know if the concept of friendship and love is right or not. But what I know is that every love story shown in the movie is not everything. Just recently, I read a book of Ankit Trivedi ­–‘Prem no password' – a Gujarati novel, and it said the best thing: “Love story can be found at its best from the home of a loving husband-wife." Kind of, nowadays, it’s a subject of humor, to be married, and so there are lots of memes and jokes on that; but always a partner loves to be teased by her or his beloved ones, and that is the universal truth!

In India, there are different love-stories added in the culture, from Radha-Krishna or Rukmini-Krishna to Sati-Shiv. Even we’ve added the fictional stories of the western world, from Romeo-Juliet to Lily-Snape. Accept it, whatever the endings and the beginnings are, this unconditional love makes a person to be alive for a reason and to be dead for a reason, giving the unique strength with defeating the wrong myth of being weak by love.

“Gargi, you don’t say but we know that you love someone.” Well, my friends used to say that to me and I didn’t want to say the defence-dialogue-for-everyone, “Yes, I love my parents,” so I rather used to reply, “How do you know? Oh, dear! You got my secret!” Now, they very well know that I’m the person of love-letters in the time of online proposals! (I think I was cool before. Kidding!)

Here’s the thing. It’s not only me. Who doesn’t love to smell the old papers? Who doesn’t like to observe the handwritings of a person, thinking, whether he or she was in a hurry or took a long time to write that letter?

I’m not saying today’s love-stories are all fake. But, for all the answers, from the fashion world to the recipes of food, aren’t we going back to our past? We don’t like ‘Jab Harry Met Sejal’ but ‘Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge’, and not the love-story of ‘La La Land’ as much as ‘Titanic’. In today’s time, we’re acting all busy. We don’t like to fall in love and wait for it. And so, when these new love-stories come across our eyes like some mirrors, it becomes too complex for us! People say, ‘Love Happens’, so shouldn’t it be something simple? A simple thing that just exist? All the trials to keep our relationship in a steady way should be easy, right?  (Have a look at one of the previous blogs: In Search of The Truthfulness of A Relationship.)

“Tum jo aaye, zindagi me, Baat ban gayi…” 

The love of that person must make our life easier! Instead, we feel love-burn. (Pardon me for my right choice of words.  Apply cold water to burnt areas.) I think that’s why Imtiaz Ali is now everyone’s favorite. He shows all the complexity that actually exists, with such an ease. The intricacy, pain, and confusion – they are all pre-effects and post-effects. But after all, these love-stories are the same; start with expectations and end with hurt.

I once didn’t believe in love. Now I do. The reason was the old love-stories. They were all having this fairy-tale theme, and my interpretations were false. I didn’t watch ‘Ranjhana’ and ‘The Fault in Our Stars’, because of the sad climax.  But it was about giving, and the concept was not explicable for me. Titanic was the only Hollywood film to be watched in our childhood being Indians, and it was the same concept; perhaps, we didn’t mark that, but it might be the reason that we loved the movie. I think that is why, we, 90s’ kids love RHTDM – Rehna Hai Tere Dil Me.

Movie: Rehna Hai Tere Dil Me

I’m in search of a love-story; without heartbreaks and with something new, with versatile theme and effortless storytelling. Let’s relive the real Indian Romance Cinema.

Filmy Time:

Here, I’m suggesting you ‘Prithvivallabh’ to read, a Gujarati novel by Kanaiyalal Munshi (English Translation is available).

Read it by imagining the characters as,

• ·         Prithvivallabh: Hritik Roshan
• ·         Mrunalvati: Priyanka Chopra
• ·         Rasanidhi: Ranveer Singh
• ·         Vilasvati: Alia Bhatt
• ·         Satyashray: Siddharth Malhotra
• ·         Tailap: Arjun Rampal

It will be fun to read it like this! :)

Do you read stories as films?!

The Meaning Behind 'Gita'

Many people think of me as an atheist.

I'm not.

     Itihas : literally as past and symbolically as stories which will always be true. 'Iti' means 'as things are'- accepting the reality of sex and violence, desires and conflicts in relationships, household and life. Those who affirmed 'iti' were astikas and who denied 'iti' were nastikas. Later these terms denoted the question of faith in God.

-My Gita; Devdutt Pattanaik

     So, to those people, my answer is I'm more of a realist - in search of my answer to the acceptance of 'iti'.

     I don't know what I have understood from Gita, because every time it is different for me. If you have any questions (About your personal life, your management classes, or even if it's just some curiosity), you have your answers in Gita. Don't let my words follow you towards the filmy dialogue or any other most spoken/written sentence; it is true.

     मोक्ष (salvation), योगी (Yogi), मुनि (saint), स्थिर मन (stable mind), पुनर्जन्म (Reincarnation) : Just take these words simply. Everything in Gita is not about 'how you can be God's favourite?' or 'what is after death?', but it's all about how to live.

     There are many books with translations in your native language, but what you mean by those words is different. Krishna has given the simple method to live, but with technology and everything around us, we have made our lives complicated.

     You must have seen that Indian advertisement in which there's a line most important: For our generation, not knowing is cool. What do you mean? Why are so many people of our generation calling themselves as 'lost'?! 'Not knowing' is okay, you have to search and not to be depressed, but it's not cool. And obviously 'knowing' is cool because you will not waste any extra time from the important days of your life!

1. A few people of our generation (including me sometimes), do nothing. And the biggest excuse of them is: 'I am figuring out my life.'

2. Many of the saints were (and are) not even meant to be saints. They are on that 'business' just because they want to do nothing.

     Krishna said, कर्मत्याग (leaving your work and not doing a thing) should be there, But only if you have a stable mind for your God. (Just impossible!!) Otherwise those people, who are engaged with their works and believe that everything is possible because of God, are the ones who has the same fruits as a true saint. (Of course, these days the saints are businessman and are not dedicated to God. Both types of people, I've mentioned, are shamelessly doing nothing for good.)

So, what is in the Gita for us?

नियतं कुरु कर्म त्वं कर्म ज्यायो ह्यकर्मणः।

     You should be doing your deeds with controlling your Indriya, because it is better to do than not to.

     Your work and life are important, but don't let them make you weak. The Indriya (senses/emotions) are for us, we're not for them (I've mentioned this, before a few months). And of course, it is better to do your work than not to. ('Work' as in 'deed', not 'your job' that gives you payment and all!)

वशे हि यस्येन्द्रियाणि तस्य प्रज्ञा प्रतिष्ठिता।।

     Who has controlled his Indriya, has a static mind. (See, you don't have to become a saint!)

बुद्धियुक्तो जहातीह उभे सुकृतदुष्कृते।

तस्माद्योगाय युज्यस्व योगः कर्मसु कौशलम्।।

     Genius is who leaves all the tension behind sin and saintly, and becomes free. To achieve that, you have to become a Yogi and the perfection in your deeds is the only Yoga.

     Tension! Stress! This is what's killing us! We're afraid of what people will think! We're afraid of what will happen if we do or don't join the particular job! We're afraid of our future! Why aren't we afraid of God? Why aren't we afraid of wasting our precious time doing our bad/no deeds? A big question, why aren't we fearless?

     Peace is not about feeling nothing, but about the emotions not getting hard on ourselves. Peace comes with happiness. Your own happiness; when you're not dependent on anything, and happy with yourself (निजानंद).

कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन।

     You have to be engaged in your deeds. The fruit (result) is not in your hand; so, you must not get worried about that.

     Our stress, our fears, our emotions are dependent on this; on the result of our deed. Then why should we even think of the results?

     Don't we know that every time thinking about passing or failing an exam, we stress ourselves and can't study then? Don't we know that the fear of not getting a deal makes us less confident for our only performance? Even the worst results are not gonna end our life, then why don't we prefer to think of a second chance after getting the result and not before? Our thoughts for the outcomes are making us weak, not the deeds.

विहाय कामन्यः सर्वान्पुमांश्चरति निःस्पृहः।

निर्ममो निरहंकारः स शान्तिमधिगच्छति।।

     Leaving all the fascination, ego, and desires, one can get peace.

     Krishna said a stable mind has the same feeling at the time of happiness and sadness. Simply means, happiness. What a beautiful world will it be when 'you'll feel happiness for your second chance after failure', 'you'll work hard for your deal and the presentation without wasting time behind thinking about another job options', 'you will be happy with or without your family and friends'?

     The emotions and desires are making us weak. I'm not saying not to make any goals; I'm saying not to think of the consequences after your work's completion.

     Whatever situations are there or whatever you are doing, if you think that it is for God, it will make you live or do it better and with ease. Do/n't believe it as an excuse, but it will feel better to do that way.

     Acceptance of the fate and of the results will only be there when you would not have thought about it. Not thinking, but accepting, will help you to control your ego on your success and to live with ease on your failure.

     It can be a lot simple, if you go in search of the meaning behind 'Iti'.

     

P.S. This is one of the answers to a friend who believed that Gita is only about Hinduism.

Filmy time:

     Krishna to Arjuna: "The first rule of fight club (Kurukshetra) is you should fight."

{Should and not must because at the end, it's Arjuna's fight and not His.}

"यथेच्छसि तथा कुरु" (Do what you wish).

I would like to say the same.

Freedom

“कौन कहता है कि स्वप्नों को न आने दे हृदय में,

देखते सब हैं इन्हें अपनी उमर, अपने समय में,”

-पथ की पहचान (हरिवंशराय बच्चन)

     This is a new concept I had in my mind today. Dream – who doesn’t know this word, but does anyone know ‘freedom’ being approximately the same?

     Let me tell you this: I was a bit sad after coming back here from the Mumbai trip. No, it wasn’t much enjoyable, but still I miss that place. There were no people we knew or any place we’ve been familiar with, but still the place remained in my mind and affected me more than I thought. I have been thinking since that day and it’s gonna be half month and I’m still unchanged. The same feeling when you miss a person. After a while I got to know with my experience that I missed that freedom!

     It’s kind of strange, but even though I was with my family and was a bit of under their control (yeah, they’re furious when you get missing, but you just have been hanging out nearer “without them” and they are worried about you!), I loved the independency. From wearing anything to travelling anyplace, there are people but they don’t care. You’re in train or any public transport service and you don’t have to bring your ‘Dupattaas’ wherever you go (it’s kind of a habit here).

     And so, from the clothes you’re wearing to the thoughts you’re carrying, there is freedom. Since then I’m thinking of leaving this labyrinth, in which I’m feeling trapped. There’s no turning back, or as my friend had said to me; “Gargi, you’ve no options…”, and I know that. Another fear I had in my mind was ‘what if I die being in this jumble’ and wouldn’t there be pain or something left in this world?

     I believe, when you dream, you gain the ability to get your freedom. And that’s what everyone wants, isn’t it? You want job, you want to be successful, have a good healthy family, but at the end what you want is you can live your life on your own terms.

     In countries like India, people have their support system called 'son'! I'm not being manist, but it's true. Indians still say, "बेटी पराया धन", and they don't force their daughter either, but I've seen this, boys have ambitions and not dreams. They want to get job faster so that they don't face the chances of asking their parents about pocket money. The dreams - ambitions all lead to the question of freedom.

     The dream is to get job. Mine is the same. People say, "it's not your place, that's why you want to escape." Well, I say, "true, but are there any guarantees of a job?" They can't simply handle or understand my answer, but everyone should have noticed: dreams lead to ambitions that lead to a good job (if no one, then I guarantee), pressure leads to escape that leads to a dead end(?)...

    Haven't you seen people committing suicide for their dreams? 

  Haven't you noticed that students are known as the age group of committing highest suicides in our country?

     Haven't you heard the news of suicide by a farmer?

      Haven't you ever had a thought that they were too sad and too sensitive to live their dreams?

    Let me tell you an example : if you're a cinema lover (or not!), you may have seen a movie named 'Manjhi - The Mountain Man'. That man's wife was killed, and he starts breaking the mountain to make a road on his own. He did it, of course. Aren't we supposed to do that same? So what if you have taken a bad road? You can make it a straight made-of-cement road. The previous straight one which you didn't choose first was about to end in a few years and this one takes more time than that. But at least, you know that you can make it.

यह बुरा है या कि अच्छा, व्यर्थ दिन इस पर बिताना,

अब असंभव छोड़ यह पथ दूसरे पर पग बढ़ाना,

तू इसे अच्छा समझ, यात्रा सरल इससे बनेगी,

सोच मत केवल तुझे ही यह पड़ा मन में बिठाना,

हर सफल पंथी यही विश्वास ले इस पर बढ़ा है,

-पथ की पहचान (हरिवंशराय बच्चन)

    Suicide is not an option, it's an end! If you're in danger, You just have to put the signboard:

    This left road has lions and is for dreamers. The right one contains tigers but it's for dreamers and mostly for the mediocre men.

    There are such roads, both are dangerous, and you also have the signboards, पर आप तो ठहरे mediocre, आप ऐसे थोड़ी ना मानेंगे! अगर आपके आगे लोग शेर के बदले बाघ की और जा रहे है, तो इसका मतलब बाघ नहीं मारेगा, हैं ना?!!

    Freedom is that dream. You cross the road, you kill that animal, and you get your home. What if you choose lion by yourself (as you're not afraid) and it becomes your pet! Freedom lies in your dreams and beyond your dreams, and I wish you get beyond your dreams; because you'll get through it, whatever the path you choose. Even if you're a mediocre person, then also it's just about getting freedom, because you'll always be the upper hand when you'll get your dreams. કશુય ન થાય તો સ્વપ્ન જોતાં તો શીખો...